You Get What You Get and You Don’t Get Upset

Several weeks ago I was with my husband at parent teacher conferences getting good reports about how the girls were doing in school. There were no big surprises. Our first grader has great handwriting, the kindergartener is an excellent reader. Our first grader is on the shy side, our younger daughter is friends with EVERYONE. Our first grader tends to be bossy, our kindergartener tends to be a bit immature. But the wise words that were delivered during the evening conferences that have stuck with me ever since, were those not of the teacher’s, but of my five-year-old.

You Get What You Get and You Don’t Get Upset

WHERE DID SHE HEAR THIS? Her kindergarten teacher admitted it wasn’t in her class. We don’t use the phrase at home. (Well we hadn’t. We do now.) She must have heard it in her own network of friends and teachers in the last year or so, but was able to use it appropriately when one of the children at her table didn’t get the color crayon he wanted.

Our letter read: The NECC 2009 Program Committee has completed its review of this year’s proposal submissions, and we regret to inform you that your proposal(s) were not accepted for inclusion in this year’s program.

Every effort was made to balance the program in the areas of content, topic, grade level, focus, and audience. Due to space limitations, many excellent proposals could not be accepted. We appreciate the time and effort involved in preparing a proposal, and thank you for offering to share your expertise with other educators.

Ok. So, now what?

Last night on Twitter, there was some wallowing (I was bummed that the proposals that @lizbdavis and I submitted together didn’t get accepted), some genuine anger towards the NECC-proposal-approval-process and thankfully, some kudos and congratulations.



tweet3You can search Twitter, if you’d like to see all the Tweets about the submissions. Just use Last night I only search for “NECC”. Today I searched for “congrats necc” and it made me smile.

Steve Hargadon, blogged about Edubloggercon2009 and NECC Unplugged urging everyone to sign up and participate in the conversations and present their sessions there. So if your session was rejected, you still have the opportunity to present in D.C. this June. Also, Vicki Davis blogged today about rejection and reminded us as educators that it is about the students.

Ok. So, now what?

For me? I’ll be at NECC09 as a listener, sharer, contributer, collaborator, however I can participate and learn. I’m looking forward to it. But for tomorrow I need to focus on the work I have coming up with teachers and students and the other projects I have going on.

Congratulations to those of you who will be presenting at NECC. I’ll give it another go next year.

15 thoughts on “You Get What You Get and You Don’t Get Upset

    1. Sharon – thanks for the link to your post. I left you a comment there as well, but I wanted to say that change is good and keeping things fresh with new faces is good too. I read somewhere that there were over 2000 submissions for NECC. I’m sure it was difficult to make the selections.


  1. Out of the mouths of babes…I wrote to wendy drexler last night and I’m sharing with you…Don’t think of it as rejection, think of it as an OPPORTUNITY to something else to make a difference….*the glass is always half full! and, now you have to tell me how the even/odd rule is playing out in your house…whose day is it???
    Happy Holidays!
    Your friend, Cindy

  2. I’m now waiting for the time to Birds of a Feather proposals to open. I’m going to try to get two of them accepted. And there will be chats at the blogger’s cafe again. And I’ll be spending some time talking to people at the Microsoft booth. So one way or another I expect to get a lot of value out of NECC 2009. Hope to see you there.

  3. These are great perspectives – there is also the ability to go in with other people who have gotten accepted – sometimes the panelists need to change on those as well. Great thoughts and I added yours to my original post.

  4. Lisa,
    I’m trying not to be upset, but I have to admit that I am a little bit. I’m also glad we tried and I know we will try again next year. The Double L team doesn’t give up easily! Plus we know we are going to have so much fun at NECC – probably more fun since we won’t have to be worrying about our presentation (trying to look on the bright side:).

    1. I would love to present one of our proposals during NECC Unplugged – we’ll chat about which one. I AM looking forward to a little less stress – the brighter side of things.

      We also have many successes to celebrate together – and we WILL try again next year (I hope).

  5. CRW says:

    Interesting article and there will be many disappointed to not hear your session. Unless, you present at either the Edublog or Unplugged events.

    Regardless of that, what you are sharing is NEVER limited to just conference locales.

    What I find most interesting though is Ms. Davis’ thoughts. She was accepted to present, though from her blog post, you would not know that.

    I appreciate your forthrightness and honesty. Your blog has just replaced COOLCATTEACHER on my blogroll.

    Best in all you do,

    1. CWR – Thank you for your comments. PLEASE, do not remove from your blogroll, just add more blogs as you find ones that are of interest to you.

      You also reminded me of UStream. We can all hold a conference any old time we want to, can’t we? I’ll be at NECC, Edubloggercon and hope to present at NECC Unplugged too.

      Thanks again,

  6. Thanks for posting. I was fortunate to have two of my three proposals accepted. I felt that the Edubloggercon and NECC Unplugged were just as fruitful as the conference itself and in some cases more so. I would also like to formally invite you to attend and participate in my PLN session on Wednesday July 1. It is a panel discussion on the power of a good professional learning network and just how extensive our network is. The focus will also be on how our PLN drives a significant percentage of our professional development. I want as many of you in my PLN there a possible. I need moderators for the backchannel in addition to calling on some of you in the audience. Let me know if you can make arrangements. My twitter name is chocxtc

    1. Ken,
      First of all – congratulations on have two proposals accepted to NECC this year. Second, thank you for the invitation to join the conversation. I have learned a great deal from you since we’ve been networking with each other through the Google Certified Teacher group. I look forward to meeting you in person in June if not before then.


  7. hwjohnson says:

    Sorry about your proposal not being accepted this year. Things always happen for a reason. Thanks for sharing and reminding us that things do not always turn out how we plan them. I like what Cindy said that it is an opportunity to make a different kind of contribution. I can’t wait to see what that contribution turns out to be.

  8. MB says:

    “you get what you get and you don’t get upset” is a good one..and she probably got it from the very popular book Pinkalicious by Victoria & Elizabeth Kann

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